To the rationale man, that would seem plausible namely because we hold to truth, reason, logic, order, morality, justice, altruism and love, but to name a few "good" characteristics and values.
"But God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind....."2 Timothy 1:7
"Lord teach me to number my days, so that I may apply wisdom to them...." Psalm 90:12
"So teach us to consider our morality, so that we might live wisely..."
"If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God who gives generously without finding fault" James 1:5
However, my observation around me suggests otherwise.
The point of this discussion/debate is a "sharpening up" exercise
Watch now:
I have a friend, she's married with 3 kids (all under 10), her husband is an alcoholic, they have struggled for a couple of years to actively try and work on his problem and their marriage. It's a long story, but she has handled it well and with a good heart and a spirit of "can do" to make the best of now a recently separately relationship (as of 8 weeks ago). She has a stable job, works in a very well respected and admired industry. She is applauded by her colleagues and boss for the quality of her work.
However she's kissed a fellow colleague / associate at a work related function. She's head over heels for this guy, he's in a defacto relationship and she's pursuing him with gusto because there is a great "chemistry" between them and she wants to see if there is something more.
There's court proceedings, separation of moneies, kids access rights, paying of mortgages and the husband is under the ATO's investigation and possible court proceedings for fraud.
Now what happens is she sleeps with the new man on the scene....
I have an acquaintance, found out his wife was cheating on him, was using work related interstate trips to fly her lover to her city and they would have it off so to speak. They have 2 kids under 10. She confronted her with the evidence, and she got all mad for breaching her privacy. He paid for her to spend time with her bet friend interstate when he confronted her to give her time to think about their marriage. She fly interstate and secretly flew her lover there for the weekend too.
Anyway they are recently living seperately. He's now pursuing other separated mothers for sex in his contacts.
I have a family living on the breadline, where 2 years back they were living in a nice house, had a holiday in the pacific and were contributing to church life, great pillars in the church for many years.
He leaves the family in a fit, and walks out. Now they are separated and he's forking out $50,000+ in court and legal fees to get access to kids that don"t want to see him and write in their notebooks "my stupid dad" messages each time they come back from a weekend with him. He's decided that he no longer wants to work, but instead study counseling so he can help others all the while abdicating his responsibilities to his family.
I have a friend with 4 kids all under 16, and he found out his wife had been cheating on him, and a lot with multiple men.
After trying to restore the marriage for 3 years, they have finally begun formal separation. She has decided that she is oppressed and needs to study, so she got herself a scholarship, yet still wants the father to provide all financial support for their kids and her living arrangements. HOwever she choses to live in a $900 a week rental, go on trips overseas and interstate and tun a charity front for a developing nation.
Another one is a man in his mid to late 20's, got married in his early 20's. Has 1 young child, recently started school. He's decided that his wife was the cause of so much of his pain and that she was not good enough for him, so he needed some "time out" to "find himself" - in an apartment just up the road from them.
After almost a year of "playing" around with the marriage, he decided that marriage was not his thing because he was so unhappy. So he's moved out permanently and has the child one afternoon a week and every second weekend.
But when he sees his estranged wife, he wants to sleep with her.
It goes on and on.
My call to you and I is to be on guard, because we have this propensity to walk away from a sound mind and instead let our passions, proclivities, wants, desires rule our heart which then rules our heads and decisions.
Be wise with our time, because we have wisdom at our fingertips from the Father of wisdom.
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