Leadership

Greg French asks : is your life worth following? 

It's a great question right?   I mean is it?

Here's another one: who's life are you following? Who's life are you trying to model - be it actively or passively? 

For men, leadership is it not about being the example and taking people to a higher place, but before they arrived they did not want to go there. 

Is my life worth following for my wife, my kids, my team, my church, my friends and my community?  if it's not worth following, then how I can expect them too? Or have I abdicated my responsibility and purpose as a man of God? 

I have been contemplating this question for several weeks now asking myself if I were able to stand outside myself, would I follow me? If not, why and because of which traits?

Moreover, if I as a Christian man have the mind of Christ who is all wisdom, truth, faith and love, then what am I missing? 

I was watching a doco/reality TV  on people going through a rehab centre from sex addiction.  It shows a short snippet of the initial background to the patients and the initial interview with the doctor as they check in. They're all crying and laughing nervously and looking away trying to not answer the questions. 

And they have bravely come to address the debilitating dysfunction in their lives - and i am thinking there is no way on God's green earth i would want to follow their lives.

They can't hold a relationship, they have to cheat on their partners, they can't have emotional connection with people and they will be admitted to prison eventually. 

But let's draw this closer to home. 

How do i speak to my wife? 

How do i speak to my kids? 

How and what do i think about my wife and kids? 

How do I speak to my boss and more so, what do I say about him when he is not around? 

How do i spend my time? 

How do i spend my money? 

How do i respond to others under duress and pain? 

How do i overlook and forgive a wrong? 

How do i treat my clients? 

How do i treat and commune with God? 

Is my life enough of an example, that others would want to follow or be influenced by - for the better? 

Better still, what is the benchmark, the "objective example of leadership?" that I should be following myself? 

When I think of Jesus I think of this about his leadership: 

He was as hard as nails and spoke fearlessly, because he was the embodiment of truth. But He expressed and enacted the absolute nature of love to every person. Some would say tough love at times, others would say he was as gentle as a butterfly to others. 

Why do I follow Jesus? Apart from the a priori that he is the Saviour, even if you didn't ascribe to that, He lifts me up to be a better man, to be the man I long to be - in every facet of my life. Now that tells me something. 

4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[b] 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.