Why is it that we come a position that says in our heart: I no longer want a relationship with that person when in fact we have made promises either in our heart or publicly to remain in relationship with them.
What is the essence of your existence? By what mechanism did you come into existence?
What would be THE ABSOLUTE worst thing that could occur to you (apart from violence)?
What is the common thread for all the human induced tragedy and discord in the world, yesteryear, today and tomorrow?
Last year before we ended 2013, we discussed the essence of relationship being girded by love and that that love had to have a reference point in order to KNOW what love is, looked and embodied and that if our vertical relationship with the author of Love (God is broken) then our horizontal relationships will also be broken - namely because we are "making it up as we go along".
Today I want us to go back to first principles of life: that is the essence, the origination of all that we have see and experience is for the purpose of a relationship.
What does God say at the start: "Let US make man in our image, to be like us..." God existing in a relationship already with the Son and Holy Spirit.
How or more so, why would a God self existent, in no relationship, want to create a relationship in the first place? - loneliness, boredom, purpose, meaning, love, joy, happiness would have no context or origination. God would not be able to say "gee I'm lonely, why not make another being so I can have someone to relate to" Being God, loneliness is not a desire or need that He would have that needed to be fulfilled. He's God, self existent needing, wanting desiring for nothing, let-alone having the motivation to create another being in order to relate to to fulfil a need.
What else does God say in Genesis, after he made Adam " It is not good for man to be alone, I will make a helper who is just right for him".
What is the first problem man faced: He believed a lie about his relationship with God and hence wanted to be free of God to be his own destiny - he walked away.
What was the first Sin (breakage of a moral code) after the "Fall" - murder - the destruction of a relationship.
What is it that you think God is trying to show us? The breakdown of the very essence of what His original purpose for creating us is: To be in a RIGHT relationship with Him and fellow man.
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As an appendix, here is a little snippet from ABC's Q&A program late last year broadcast with a panel from the Festival of Dangerous Ideas. I add it to this discussion to give some light on what these panelists think of the most important relationship between human beings:
"GERMAINE GREER: Well, I think marriage is a terrible system. I think it’s a terrible system for lots of reasons. We live too long. We change too much. Our lives are constantly being rebuilt as to whether we're in an industry, out of it, in a creative activity. Da da da da. We meet new people. We turn into different people.
DAN SAVAGE: Which is why divorce isn't always a tragedy. This idea that if two people outlive a marriage that that marriage was a failure, I think is something we need to discard. You know, we tell people that, you know, if somebody dies, congratulations that was a successful marriage. But if you part and it was an amicable parting. You were together 25 years. You raised a couple of kids during that time you were married and then you move on to perhaps new partners, new interests, a sort of whole new stage of life, why can't we say that was a successful marriage and now those two people are in new successful marriage?
GERMAINE GREER: I'm in the that position because my marriage lasted three weeks and...
TONY JONES: I don't know that you are in that position.
GERMAINE GREER: People said, “Your marriage failed,” and I said "No, it didn't fail, it was just short."
So here we have Germaine advocating that a separate union between a man and woman at the exclusion of all others for life in sickness and health in richer and poorer, for good and bad times is a horrendous arrangement because: we change, we get old, we change careers, we move around.
What the?! What am i missing here? I'm not sure i follow Germaine. Does that also apply to the kids? Because blended families and single parents or transient parental relationships are a most excellent environment for kids!
Which follows the congruency of her argument when she states that she had a successful 3 week marriage.
Boy she must have had some serious changes in those 3 weeks to justify the divorce. She puts Kim Kardashian to shame!
What's more Dan's tragic comment that divorce is great if after 25 years (seems like a nice round number) that you have outlived your partner and ready for an upgrade... Because both parties always come to that same conclusion simultaneously. Dan got me thinking given he is so pro marriage, that one's vows would have to look like this: "i take thee in sickness and health depending on the length type and inconveniece it causes me, for better or worse though the worse is subjective to my feelings, for richer for poorer unless i sense you are being a financial burden on me, till death do us part or i get bored and outgrow you.
