Confidant

Do you have someone in your world that has the authority to question every area of your life?  Someone that holds you to account or at the minimum is able to ask you about how your life is going ?

I have been reflecting upon this for some time, motivated by Ravi Zacharias stating a few times recently that he has a couple of people in his life that do that.

In traditional Christian circles having men keep each other accountable is a noble and right thing to do.

I have a couple of friends that would be my "SOS" call - that is, if I had done something woeful, that I could call, and knew they had my back, but to have someone that is able to ask any question and I am compelled to answer it - that is a different thing.

First question, is it necessary? If not necessary, is it a good or helpful person to have?

The Bible speaks in Proverbs of having many advisers, to have wise people in your life, that "wounds from a friend can be trusted" and the OT is littered with solid trusted friendships, so there is some precedence for this, but I am asking for something more.

Why have one?

Because I want to have a Christian man, challenge me and be on the front foot to not make poor decisions, but also to proactively reduce the likelihood of "doing deals in my head".

What has struck me so powerfully and in some ways against my want, is the statement by Malcolm Muggeridge (a late comer to Christ): "The depravity of man is at once the most empirically verifiable reality and at the same time the most intellectually resistant fact".

Jesus describes my heart as clear as day: that is has the propensity toward evil.

Now this is to not fear of making a bad decision, or making a mistake, far from it, rather this desire to have a confidant, is to be proactive and judicious in my thinking, my actions, my wants and will and proclivities.

It would be foolish to say that I am a strong Christian man, unlikely to falter or walk away - a fools paradise.

I'm open to cross examination of the idea if this Confidant is unnecessary or over-regulated.